About Shirlene

For years, I lived on autopilot—people-pleasing, over-explaining, and shrinking myself to fit the version others expected of me. I gaslighted myself before anyone else had the chance. I didn’t realize how deeply rooted my pain was until I hit a point where staying the same became more painful than facing the truth.

One day, I woke up and realized something had to change. And that change had to start with me.

So I dug deep. I confronted the uncomfortable truths of my past—the trauma I had buried, the self-sabotaging habits I had normalized, and the boundaries I had never learned to set. I stopped making excuses for the people who hurt me, and more importantly, I stopped making excuses for staying stuck. I began the hardest work of all: healing.

This wasn’t a highlight-reel journey. It was raw. Lonely. Transformational. And worth every second.

Today, I don’t just talk about what healing looks like—I’ve lived it. I know what it feels like to question your worth, to feel like your voice doesn’t matter, and to carry the weight of invisible wounds. And I also know what it feels like to set boundaries without guilt, to reclaim your story, and to finally believe you are enough—just as you are.

Now, I help others get out of their own way and rewrite the script they've been handed. Whether you're navigating the aftermath of toxic relationships, learning how to set boundaries, or trying to stop self-sabotage once and for all, I’m here to remind you: you can change your life. You just have to take the first step.